If you went through struggles, stress, trauma, crisis, or you faced something new in life, these are my words for you which are from my wide experience as suffering is a part of our life so if you are interested, come aboard with me…
Anyone of us will face difficult situations in life such as relationships, financial, health problems or even new experiences for example birth, promotions, a change in your job or radical changes in your country e.g., war, that may force you to move out of your country. These trials and tribulations are a natural part of the human experience and can test our resilience, strength, and ability to adapt. Some people will adapt better than others as different people have different responses due to different personalities. Also, the effect on feelings and emotions will differ which are all normal. However, what isn’t normal is the extreme period of those negative emotions that some people can over-exaggerate.
Have you heard about resilience? Which is a skill that everyone needs. If so, what does it mean?
How do you think a person can improve this skill?
Resilience is the ability to recover from difficult or challenging situations that will help you stay positive and helpful even when faced with obstacles. It is about finding ways to overcome problems. Do you agree that skill is necessary for us?
Let me share my story as an example. Whenever someone used to make me upset, I would feel sad for a really long time. It didn’t just affect me, but also my family, and it made it hard for me to focus on my studies and get things done. But then I realized that this wasn’t a good way to handle things. So, I took a moment to reflect on myself and decided to make some changes in how I dealt with these situations by shorten the period of negative feeling day by day.
As a mother, it’s important for me to guide and advise my children. When they don’t follow my advice, I might initially feel angry or frustrated. However, instead of resorting to shouting or letting my mood be affected, I change my approach. I calmly and patiently inform them about the consequences of their actions and try to explain why it’s important to make the right choices. I also pray for them, hoping that they will understand and do the right thing. Once I have done my part in communicating my concerns and providing guidance to my children, my responsibility ends. So, my only duty is to convey the truth in a good and suitable way then it is their decision to accept it or reject it. By watching yourself and realising your weaknesses to change your way in dealing with people, you can reduce your negative feelings and build healthy supportive relationships with others.
To improve resilience, it’s important to understand how you think and behave in different situations. When I got married, my husband and I had different personalities. For instance, I tend to get easily angry while he stays calm. I realised that a partner should complement and enhance your personality. So, even if there were things, I didn’t like about him, I learned to focus on the positive aspects. This helped our marriage grow and thrive. So, I can overcome family problems.
To overcome negative feelings from the past and regrets, I take steps to make myself feel better. I watch helpful videos, ask others for advice, or go outside to a park for fresh air. When something makes me angry, I don’t respond right away. Instead, I wait until I’m calm before replying. If you want to be successful and different, imagine what you want to achieve. For example, when I was in medical school, I imagined myself as a doctor with my own clinic, helping patients. This motivated me to study hard. Whenever you succeed in something, celebrate and enjoy it to create happy memories. These memories will keep you going towards your goals. These are some ways to handle your emotions.
Managing your emotions has several benefits for your overall health. It helps maintain a healthy mind and body, prevents conditions like heart disease and digestive issues, and promotes positive relationships with others. When we effectively handle our emotions, we reduce chronic stress levels. This is important because excessive stress can release hormones like cortisol and adrenaline, which can weaken our immune system and lead to various health problems. Therefore, taking care of our emotional well-being is crucial for a healthy and balanced life.
To wrap it up, it’s essential for us to always be open to learning and understanding ourselves and life. By being lifelong students, we can discover how to overcome any significant challenges we face along the way. Life is our teacher, and the more we learn, the better we handle its ups and downs. So, let’s embrace the idea of continuously learning and growing, so we can lead fulfilling and meaningful lives.