Yes, I’m a mother and my daughter is 5 years old. She is in reception class. We come from Hong Kong and live at Manchester about one year. She really loves live here.
“When things get hard, we fall apart on the people we feel safest with.”
One day afternoon when she came back from school. I was in my kitchen prepare the dinner while my daughter watched TV in the living room. Suddenly she started crying. She told me she fell on the monkey climb at school. She hurt her bottom. And then she needed to stand for supper, because if she sit down she was in pain. I’m not sure is she too tired or what happened she was so emotional and defiant.
I was thinking about it…. “How is she getting on at school? Does she love it? She seems to be getting on well, but l’m not sure. Her teacher says she’s been good, she can make a friends and play with them. But…. Why she’s driving me crazy at home. She argues with me and cries about everything. I just don’t get it.”
I felt frustrated and mad because she was so emotional and defiant. I tried being more strict. If I don’t punish her, she’ll grow up to be naughty. But it just got worse.
Then, one day I was searching on the internet “Why my daughter after school so easy emotional”.
Then it all came clear. ‘When things get hard, we fall apart on the people we feel safest with.’
It became clear.
Now I know what I can do:
I trying to……
1: Do not ask too much about her school. (Don’t bombarded her with questions and waiting when she ready to talk)
2: I need to step away from my to do list and focus on her. (Let her relax and play. I trying to play with her and spend one-on-one time with her)
3: Give her healthy snacks. (Hangry will easy angry, make sure her had energy and fill them up)
I hope these tips can be helpful.
